Friday, September 4, 2009

Have You Misplaced Yourself?

I have learned in my years on this planet that life is most difficult when we take it too seriously. Somehow, we have come to believe that floating around on this little spec of dust called Earth makes us the glue that holds the universe together. We fight, stress and ruminate over the most insignificant details, making them the center of our lives. Why?

The answer is simply validation. We want our lives to mean something. Our lives should be meaningful but we often miss what is truly meaningful by focusing on the wrong things. As a society we typically define meaning based on material success rather than the intrinsic value that each of us has within us. The messages we receive from birth stress the point that we must "have" to "be".

There is nothing wrong with material success providing we are not harming ourselves and those around us while trying to achieve it. Many people would actually be more successful if they could just remove the remove the preconceived conditions they have been taught as the only road to achieve it.

Often we deny our deepest needs in the pursuit of our perceived desires. We loose ourselves in this process, slowly killing our true self by either trying to become the person someone else wants us to be or someone we have told ourselves we have to be. Living in this state causes immense suffering within us as we deny the person that we really are.

The only way to real happiness is by living truthfully to who we are no matter how deeply we have buried the the true self. It can be very frightening as we remove the layers because we are afraid of what we may find. Breath through the fear and ask yourself; Who am I? What do I want out of life?

Be aware that a little nagging voice may try to stop you. "You are not good enough". "You have not achieved enough". These are the voices that have been placed on us by life's conditions not from truth. Acknowledge this voice for what it is, static. Keep pushing deeper. It is not something that will come overnight but if you keep going, you will find it.

Small steps are all you need, there is no hurry. It took a long time to get to the point where you are and that is fine. It is where you are right now in the present moment. You just don't have to stay where you have been told you must be.

Stop taking yourself and life too seriously. Make time to enjoy the time you have here, laughing, crying and everything in between. You deserve the best because you are you.

9 comments:

YogaforCynics said...

Like Walt Whitman said "for every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you..."

Good to see a new post from ya...

timethief said...

The only way to real happiness is by living truthfully to who we are no matter how deeply we have buried the the true self. ... Stop taking yourself and life too seriously. Make time to enjoy the time you have here, laughing, crying and everything in between. You deserve the best because you are you.

The post spoke to me. Your writing informed me of things I needed to hear when I needed to hear them SIGH ... and I'm so pathetic when it comes to commenting that I usually don't bother to leave a comment behind. This time I will leave only if just to say a heartfelt thank you.
Namaste

dcrelief said...

Nice post. I know I misplace myself sometimes, but I continue to return, and that is encouraging.
Take care; thank you.
In peace.

Teresa said...

Unfortunately, this topic takes extremes. I know people who don't take their life seriously at all, and those who are having health issues for doing the opposite.

Balance...balance...

Jarrod - Warrior Development said...

It is so easy to get lost in the thoughts of the mind suggesting where your action and your interests should be.

Truly stepping back and seeing their folly is a constant requirement.

klahanie said...

Hi Roger,
As you know, I try not to take life too seriously. I like to maintain a healthy balance.
You commented on one of my recent light-hearted blogs that you have seen folks who are taking life a bit too seriously. So I would like to state that I can very much relate to what you have alluded to in this post.
In peace and respect, Gary.

G.Kannan said...

All your posts are high philosophical truths, but are not at all difficult to our present lives to enjoy more bliss the Buddhist way. Great truths revealed.

Robin Easton said...

WOW!! This is one powerful post. It's one I will print out and reread. It's both a timely and timeless message, one I love to hear over and over, and one that so few speak. I read this and everything in me instantly KNEW it as truth. I felt more whole, more me and more real. It flood me like warm nourishing sustenance.

I love this line: "Often we deny our deepest needs in the pursuit of our perceived desires."

Thank you SO much dear Roger. I am very grateful for your strong true voice.

Nameste,
Robin

in vino veritas said...

This is a great post. Having been with Wall Street firms for many years, we forget to stop and smell the roses. This is a great reminder. Thxs.